Insecurity: A Crippling Malady

If you are insecure with yourself, you are undergoing a mental problem that plagues a huge percentage of people. Insecurity is when you constantly think and worry about your own worth and your own capabilities. This includes social situations, if you somehow think that you don’t fit in with other people. Insecurity can cripple you in many situations, from social situations to job interviews. Insecurity can be caused by many things. If you suffer from it, you should examine yourself and figure out where it stems from. As soon as you realize that, you can take steps to make yourself better.

Insecurity often stems from ones upbringing. If you have lived in a very critical household in which people are constantly saying that you did a bad job or that you aren’t good enough, you will probably have some emotional issues leftover. This is a very frequent occurrence. Unfortunately you can’t go back in time and change your childhood, so you will have to cope. You can either deal with it until you build confidence naturally, or you can attempt to talk to a therapist and get advice as to how you can speed up the process.

You may also be insecure because of the people you surround yourself with. Maybe your friends are constantly mocking you or insulting what you do. This may seem like tough love, but it is very damaging. The solution to this is easy. Either find new friends, or tell your current ones how you feel about what they say to you. This isn’t always easy, but it is definitely necessary. If your friends are causing you to be insecure about yourself, then they are not worth hanging around. Don’t let them have a negative effect on you, whether they do it intentionally or not.

Usually if you just step back a bit and examine your life, you will be able to see where the negative energy is coming from. Something is making you be dissatisfied with yourself, and this is something that should not happen. Whether it is your job, your girlfriend, or your friends, you should do everything you can to either defuse the negative vibes, or completely remove them from your life. It may be hard to do at first, but once you are free from them, you will begin to feel like a new person.